We had a chance at the table to discuss the apparent "lets walk our daughters to Starbucks" encounter this memorial day. Tom happened to be walking with his daughter Amy and I was walking with Heather to Starbucks. I made the mistake of saying.. wasn't it nice to take our daughters out to coffee. I was corrected, she took me out.
I asked, who paid? (mistake)
He said that she did. Why would you have any problem with that?
I said that I naturally assumed that her father would pay?
No he did not pay.
He then went into the theology that we need to have opportunities for people to pay and that if he would pay then it would deprive her of the opportunity to give the gift. And of course the giver gets more than the receiver.
Sadly this is where we differ in our philosophies. I have no problem with people helping me out. Especially if they are willing and there is a great disparity of income between us.
Even as a parent helping out a daughter. The income gap does not even have to come in to play.
It is just a nice thing to do with your daughter. Papa should pay.
I suppose that what we once thought about Tom being conservative or frugal or tight was instead the enactment of this philosophy. And now that makes perfect sense with his philosophy.
So of course not to leave this issue alone.. Ron and I had to extrapolate it into other examples of the conversation. I would have.. but that would have taken the opportunity for giving away from a given situation. etc.
So Ron charged me a dollar for every time we applied this philosophy.. I was down two bucks on the table when he came back with one too. I took one of my dollars off the table.
Comments.. I would hate to have you not have a chance to respond.. so have some fun with this one in the comments..
: ) pat
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