Win Win

Another quote from the Most Brilliant Thoughts

The shortest and best way to make your fortune is to let other people see clearly that it is in their best interests to promote yours. Jean de La Bruyère 1645-1695

This is an early philosophical response to getting things done. It shows up in Dale Carnige's "How to influence people" and it is rock solid at the table. It also what we try to get our students to do in therapy. Put yourself in their place. What would you say. How can you get them to see what you want unless it is in their best interest.

My favorite home tale about this is the story of the ice cream trip.

It was a hot afternoon in Merced. Linzi decided that she wanted an ice cream cone from Baskin Robbins at the Mall, about a mile away from our house. She did not drive or have a boy friend that could scoop her up and take her to the mall for her treat. So she asked be about 3 times. I kept putting it off. It didn't seem in my interest for the her urgancy. Before long a pair of shoes were dropped beside my feet. A set of keys were found and put in my hand as she helped me up off the sofa and guess what? We were headed off to the mall to get an ice cream.

I wasn't oppesed to the idea. It just had to be brought up to my conscience. She made her interest mine and we both had a nice ice cream at the mall.

win win..Jean de La Bruyère

Love Pat